Love me for a reason..

"Love me for a reason.. and let the reason be love" (Boyzone)

Yes, here I am yet again talking about one of my endless topic, love. Why do I keep discussing this? Why do I keep questioning this? Why are there so many theories... ideologies... stories when it comes to love?

why? because love is enigmatic. It's not something that is easily explained. Such the quotation above (note: I don't quote boybands often unless if they actually do have a line of value). Love makes you do crazy things... it baffles the mind... it creates war AND harmony at the same time. Love for a reason, and let the reason be love. What does that really mean?

It means, it's just difficult to explain why you are in love with someone.

It is easy to say HOW you start falling in love with someone. That is what I call the triggers; things that makes you "like" someone and which leads to love. These triggers are unique to different people; physical appearance, intelligence, charisma, humour, boob size, sexual fetishes, common interest - - you get the drift.

Thing is... most of these triggers are either ephemeral (particularly when it comes to physical apperance - one of the main reasons as to what contributes to "liking" someone) or faded away or overwhelmed by negative attributes of the person you fell "in love with"; such as being abusive, compulsive liar, impassionate etc.

For example, you fell in love with your bestfriend; she's always been there for you and showed you how much she really cares about you - and on top of that - you do everything together, and then things happen, you may get a little drifted apart, let's say, she's off to study abroad. Are the reasons for how you fell in love with her still valid as being reasons why you still love her? You say you love her because she's always there for you - what if she's not anymore? Are you going to stop loving her? Is it the end?

No - your feelings remain. But why? You thought you love her because of your togetherness - are you sure?

As I've said, the process of falling in love, is easier to explain in compared to why you still are currently in love with that person.

Some people say.. reasons can change or fade. Feelings remain. So can you really say you need a specific reason to love someone? It's difficult to put in words.

When I'm in love, I don't know why, but at the end of a stressful day, a simple text message from the person you're in love with - could just brighten your whole day. A little smile, can cheer you up like you've never been happier. A little eye contact, could make your heart stop beating for a moment like as if time itself wants you to embrace that moment. A little touch could make your palm sweat and your heart beats faster. Why? because you are in love.

True love - true undying and unconditional love, is like wind, you know it - you feel it - you just don't know how to explain it. For something so beautiful, just let it be, don't question it too much. Love is just so great that you can't really find the perfect words to explain it, apart from the word "love" itself.

note:

Unconditional love is not the best in every situations. When it comes to abusive partners or those who are compulsive liars, that is enough a reason for you to walk out that door. When people say, there shouldn't be a reason for you to love someone - then I say, there are reasons why you should NOT love someone.

Also, some couples spend way too much time thinking of reasons why they love each other - and in most cases, it ends up in an argument. So there, when both of you are in love; embrace it - stop questioning it.

With love,

Muaz Al Rashid