Yes, I get it, I haven’t updated nothing since God knows when... but really? Would you wanna hear me rant pointless and mundane things? I don’t update for the sake of updating... thus.
SO, if some of you can possibly tell, I have been extremely busy lately... working from the early morning until late night most days... and I feel amazingly liberated over the fact that I’ve been having two nights off in a row... aaahhh.... shower me with tranquillity and relaxation..
Regardless..
So, both my sisters are married... there’re 4 of us Al-Rashid kids.. and with me being the first born son (I’m the second), I get the magic Asian question: “Kau bila lagi, Muaz?” loosely translated as “So when’s your turn?”
Why did I say “magic Asian question”? ‘cos it seems like an Asian thing.. Once you’ve graduated... or reaching your mid 20s (I’m only friggin’ 23) , people (older relatives most of the time) would start flooding you with that particular question... at times it’s just unbearable... most times, it is downright annoying.
Really, what is with us Asian’s obsession with getting married so early? When I told my aunt once that I decide to get married when I’m 30, she went ballistic!
In our early 20’s, there’s still a lot for us to learn and self-develop before settling down with a family. I want to be fully prepared, and be able for sure (financially, in most cases) to support my family in the future. I don’t wanna look back and say “sigh, I should’ve done this first... I should’ve thought about building a house first... now why didn’t I plan??”
That’s just talking about finance.. maturity is another thing... Yes, I get jealous when I see my friends and relatives looking ever so gorgeous on their dais, and I totally envy them with their babies in the arms, but, am I ready to pursue a family? Am I really ready to have my own kids? Am I ready to lead? I have yet to even figure who I am as a person (in a lot of aspects) and what I want to do (teaching no? Teaching yes? Police? A diplomat? A journalist?)
So if I can’t figure out who I am... how can I lead a whole family? Some say, when you actually started your family, you will then discover your true path... But I question thee... isn’t that a bit too late?
Anyway... This is what I’m saying... there’s a lot more to life and growing up than to get married early... getting married early does not prove that you’ve matured... I know a lot of people who could serve as a perfect example to this.
So, I’m saying... before you wish to lead... lead yourself first... a year from now for me isn’t enough... I want to discover the world... discover what I am able to do... learn things... be satisfied with myself... Sound a lil’ bit self-centred? No, I don’t think so..
In reaching a peak, you’ve tones of valleys and obstacles to endure.. I want to make sure that I am able to go through them before jumping into the bandwagon.. You just don't climb a mountain without having to make sure you're fit enough to do it.. I don't want to end up failing half-way through
Love,
Muaz Al Rashid
SO, if some of you can possibly tell, I have been extremely busy lately... working from the early morning until late night most days... and I feel amazingly liberated over the fact that I’ve been having two nights off in a row... aaahhh.... shower me with tranquillity and relaxation..
Regardless..
So, both my sisters are married... there’re 4 of us Al-Rashid kids.. and with me being the first born son (I’m the second), I get the magic Asian question: “Kau bila lagi, Muaz?” loosely translated as “So when’s your turn?”
Why did I say “magic Asian question”? ‘cos it seems like an Asian thing.. Once you’ve graduated... or reaching your mid 20s (I’m only friggin’ 23) , people (older relatives most of the time) would start flooding you with that particular question... at times it’s just unbearable... most times, it is downright annoying.
Really, what is with us Asian’s obsession with getting married so early? When I told my aunt once that I decide to get married when I’m 30, she went ballistic!
In our early 20’s, there’s still a lot for us to learn and self-develop before settling down with a family. I want to be fully prepared, and be able for sure (financially, in most cases) to support my family in the future. I don’t wanna look back and say “sigh, I should’ve done this first... I should’ve thought about building a house first... now why didn’t I plan??”
That’s just talking about finance.. maturity is another thing... Yes, I get jealous when I see my friends and relatives looking ever so gorgeous on their dais, and I totally envy them with their babies in the arms, but, am I ready to pursue a family? Am I really ready to have my own kids? Am I ready to lead? I have yet to even figure who I am as a person (in a lot of aspects) and what I want to do (teaching no? Teaching yes? Police? A diplomat? A journalist?)
So if I can’t figure out who I am... how can I lead a whole family? Some say, when you actually started your family, you will then discover your true path... But I question thee... isn’t that a bit too late?
Anyway... This is what I’m saying... there’s a lot more to life and growing up than to get married early... getting married early does not prove that you’ve matured... I know a lot of people who could serve as a perfect example to this.
So, I’m saying... before you wish to lead... lead yourself first... a year from now for me isn’t enough... I want to discover the world... discover what I am able to do... learn things... be satisfied with myself... Sound a lil’ bit self-centred? No, I don’t think so..
In reaching a peak, you’ve tones of valleys and obstacles to endure.. I want to make sure that I am able to go through them before jumping into the bandwagon.. You just don't climb a mountain without having to make sure you're fit enough to do it.. I don't want to end up failing half-way through
Love,
Muaz Al Rashid
jan ko kawin before aku ah. hehehe
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